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Re: Let’s Talk About Numbers

clearlii — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 08:43:13 -0000

My most recent ex was number type #4, and two ex's before that, type #2&4 hybrid. Musician and dramatist, respectively. They both made me go through and name the people I had slept with, and the nature of my relationship with them - and I told them everything, because I thought honesty was the best policy. What ended up happening was exactly what you end with in the typification of #4 - they couldn't let go. It wasn't the number of guys I had slept with - it was that they were measuring themselves up to the others.

Really, I think by not talking about it, you're saving your man a lot of needless torture. If I knew that my boyfriend had slept with some beautiful, fabulous model types before me, I would subconsciously never forget it. Why waste perfectly good mind/emotional space on desctructive information? Especially that subconscious space - that stuff is sneaky.

Re: Let’s Talk About Numbers

Joe — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 16:33:23 -0000

Better a man than a guy . . .

Re: Let’s Talk About Numbers

Jennifer Van Grove — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 16:10:47 -0000

Hi Joe. Great comment and I agree 100%. Thanks for being a man about this!

Re: Let’s Talk About Numbers

Joe — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 15:54:27 -0000

Although I made a joke on Angie's blog, let me just say that for all four of the types you list, the bottom line is insecurity. And I think this is more of a male that a female issue. I think a man asking that question is, or potentially is, intimidated by the sexuality of the woman he's asking. "What if she's had a lot of experience and I don't measure up?" A man who is truly confident in his own sexuality, doesn't have to take his partner's inventory, doesn't have to brag about his own "notches" and isn't really worried about how he stacks up. Chances are, he knows what he's doing.