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Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

Leonardo Souza — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 15:49:49 -0000

Hi Jenn!

As a first contact with your blog, the sincerity and openness of your post really caught on me.

Keep up with the good posts and this constant work of finding the true balance between "good" and "evil". :)

Warm regards,
Leo

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

Jennifer Van Grove — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 21:58:13 -0000

@Ryan I acknowledge the veracity of some of your points, but it's obvious to me that we have led completely different lives. Perhaps had I remained sheltered for a longer period of time and married young, I would feel differently, but my sexuality is very much a part of who I am as an adult female.

I almost married a man who was saving himself for marriage. I was so inspired by my faith at the time that I felt that I could forgo those temptations. It was 3 months before our wedding day when the real reasons behind our sexless relationship became obvious enough for me to call everything off. I care for the guy so I won't share those reasons here, but part of the problem was that he had been conditioned since childhood to think of sex as dirty. Anyhow long story short, I went down a different path and it just wasn't me. I have to be true to myself, because I refuse to find myself settling for an unsatisfying marriage (trust me I meet far too many men who are unhappily married).

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

Ryan — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 21:43:40 -0000

@Jenn :: But where does the boundary lay then Jenn if sex isn't to be confined to marriage?

Sex was designed by God to be enjoyable and wonderful, but to be limited to the confines of marriage to keep the family unit pure.

And if God designed it then He has rules about it's use, and if we decide to go out on our own then there will likely be some bad consequences (please read Galatians 6:7 KJV). So if we do decide to disregard God in this area then what boundaries are we going to use?

I don't want to have to mention any specifics, Jenn (I wouldn't want the wrong type of crowd landing here from Google!), but you will no doubt agree that if there are no absolute boundaries in this area we can get into some pretty disgusting stuff!

I care for you, and God does more so, and I know I'm not holier than thou or perfect in any way (I'm right up there with Paul in the "chiefest of sinners" zone), but girl please please please refrain from fornication (1 Thessalonians 4:3 KJV). I know, it's difficult, but it's God's will for our life.

@LenaB :: an omniscient, omnipresent, omnipotent God wouldn't really be *all that* if He couldn't preserve His Word throughout time, huh? Thankfully my God does (Psalm 12:6-7 KJV)... otherwise, if He can't, He's a liar - and then we'd have some real problems!!

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

Jennifer Van Grove — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 17:08:35 -0000

@Lena it's nice to have a smart chic understand where I'm coming from. It's a common female plight and finding the balance is a journey, not just something you're born with.

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

Geoff Livingston — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 17:07:45 -0000

Hmm, I'm not a Christian. So, have at it! ;)

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

Jennifer Van Grove — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 17:05:48 -0000

@cooleyhigh It's a pretty lofty and idealistic notion to walk around and pretend that the judgment of others carries no weight. The fact that I'm human is what makes this something interesting to blog about. \

Peoples' opinions do matter. Why? One example - blogging about sex could affect any professional decisions I make in the future. Let's get real. If I want to socialize and interact with family and friends, their perception of me is going to influence the entire relationship. I seriously doubt that anyone can truly separate how they feel about something from how society/friends etc view that same something.

You kind of hit a nerve, because I have found peace with who I am and yet you seem to find fault that there was ever even an issue.

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

Lena B — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 17:03:45 -0000

@cooleyhigh: Just FYI - Even if you believe that the Bible is truly God's words, you must acknowledge that it was delivered through a human filter. And then translated a lot. And then edited so much that entire books were removed (Apocrypha). A literal interpretation of the Bible is not applicable to life, which you would know if you've ever seriously studied the Bible.

@Jenn: I'm glad that you've found the balance between faith and sexuality. There is a lot of guilt and societal pressure associated with secularity vs. living a "pure" life. You show strength and fortitude to have broken out of that mindset without losing your religion or your sense of self.

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

cooleyhigh — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 16:18:49 -0000

And your opening sentence is rather curious:

"I firmly assert, without fear of ridicule, that I believe in God and Jesus, thus I consider myself a Christian through faith."

I hope Christ Jesus doesn't preface your introduction before the Heavenly Father like that... "I firmly assert, without fear of ridicule, that, yes, Almighty, I know this woman Jenn and love her."

Geez. Be firm in that faith you say you have. "Without fear of ridicule?" Who cares Tom, Dick or Harry thinks, Jenn? There is absolutely no one 'perfect' in society's eyes, so stop looking over your shoulder. Yes, they are watching, but, um, how much do they matter to your personal happiness?

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

cooleyhigh — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 16:14:07 -0000

I don't get it... why do people always say 'the world is judging me!' Dude, you say you're a Christian, so that must mean you own a Holy Bible.

If you've read it, it ain't man's commentary on your lifestyle that matters, it's GOD's. And no one can tell you how GOD will deal with an individual...

But, um, I suppose His Holy Words in the Holy Bible are meant to be applied to a Christian's life, no? What else is it for? Pretty poetry and scary parables?

Why are you looking beyond GOD for approval and/or disapproval? Who cares what your friends think about your relationship with GOD? You think they can testify on your behalf or something before the LORD? It's between you and HIM.

Just be real about it, huh? Stop playing around. You like to have sex and you don't care if you're doing it while you're married or not. You also say you love the LORD and call yourself a Christian. OK. So what does the Holy Bible say about sexual immorality and state about a person's body? And you don't have to look too hard, Paul wrote a whole lot about it.

And I'm not condemning or judging you either, friend. None of us are perfect. I'm just saying stop beating around the bush. You really think that guilt you were battling came from what other people may think about your lifestyle...?

Whatever.

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

Chris Dornan — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 15:52:44 -0000

I agree with the others. It must be healthy drop the guilt over sex. I think many of the repressive aspects of modern faiths are a historical aberration. Over-indulging in sex may well throw up problems (I means the obvious practical ones), but I don't see why sex in itself should mean in any way be bad. Much better to enjoy your body guilt-free and then come back to the middle; sex in itself won't being happiness either. There is a middle way somewhere. (Sorry if I am not making much sense.)

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

rowsdower — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 14:43:13 -0000

didn't the lord invent sex? why would he/she/it invent it and then say it's bad? a perfect creator can never create something imperfect and hence you should enjoy sex as much as you want safe in the knowledge that the lord is pleased that you are using the gifts he/she/it has given you to their fullest.

to deny sex or feel bad about it is to deny or feel bad about something given to you by god and rejecting god's gifts is rejecting god.

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

icegirl200 — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 12:24:51 -0000

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

icegirl200 — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 12:24:35 -0000

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Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

Ishan — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 12:02:05 -0000

very nice...

Re: Sex and the Single Christian Woman

Prabin — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 08:35:59 -0000

Sexuality needs to be spared from the intruding Faith. or if you are a devout Christian the other way round. It is amazing that you discovered that for yourself. Even more so, that you advocate it. Cheers