DISQUS

richandcreamy · 1 year ago

I have no idea how to tell a guys reactions to the overnight bag but a possible solution who be to sneak one in. I had someone ninja a bag in once and was amazed she was able to fit a whole outfit in what looked like a normal purse.

If you had two bags and both of you rode in the same car then pulling a switcharoo is easily excusable but if you took two cars then I guess it would be more noticeable you have a different bag on you.

I never realized how hard the walk of shame was till I started asking my homegirls about it. I also thought it just meant the walk back to the car after the club when your outfits all messed up from dancing and sweating.

P.S.
Your blog gives me the most referrals out of all the comments I leave people so I hope you don't mind me commenting often lol.

Joe · 1 year ago

I'm not sure how you read a guy for this either. I don't have a lot of experience in this particular scenario. Yet, I have to say it's truly sad that we live in a society where there has to be a Walk of Shame Boulevard. Men are comfortable with this street because for them it's a Walk of Pride. I know this is like saying don't be who you are, but I would urge you, don't feel shame. Single sex is not a crime in this country . . . . well not yet.

Enrique · 1 year ago

Great post! From what I've seen in the past, the "walk of shame" has a simple solution if you have your car present.

First, a guy shouldn't really worry about someone being prepared to be hygienic. Anyone that makes presumptions about "the bag" being some kind of anchor tieing him down is just lame. Even more so, it just makes sense that if there's sex going on, especially consistently, it's not a bad thing to have preparations present - just shows that the Awesome was premeditated... Should be a bonus to most men.

If you're still questioning whether or not the bag is acceptable, keep it in your car, then in the morning nab some man-sweats and a t-shirt, cruise to the car, grab your shit & hit the shower.

The boundary to not cross is leaving your stuff in his bathroom prematurely, and pulling the "nesting" stuff out before it's due. In fact, I'd say that's the concerning matter of the fact... having portable preparations is never a bad thing, unless it's the first time you went out with the person, ever.

DSal · 1 year ago

I do not think an overnight bag is such a big ordeal. Granted I think differently than most people, but back when I was single, it would be preferred over closet or drawer space for someone who became a regular visitor. I was very territorial, boundaries were set, if I opened them it was for a reason. In my bizarre mindset overnight equals good, no big deal; drawer/closet space equals major relationship commitment, settling down scenario. That could be good or bad depending on my feelings for the person. Sounds bad I guess because if you are having them stay over you would assume some level of wanting them there in the first place. As I read over my comments I realize they look rather bad...but at least they are honest...

Stomper · 10 months ago

I find it hard to believe that the walk of shame even exists, because It doesn't exist in my reality. My belief system is very open-minded and non-judemental of other people, so if I were to happen to see a woman walking down the street at 7am in a party dress and stiletto's, I honestly wouldn't think anything of it.

How could what strangers may or may not be thinking about the circumstances that caused you to be looking that way walking down the street at 7am bother you? Just by mentally framing that situation in a negative tone, you force yourself to try to come up with solutions for it.

How about not framing it in a negative mental tone at all? Think about it, you got laid the night before. How many of the people that will see you walking down the street the next morning do you think got laid the night before? Probably 25% of them at the most. If anything, of the people that make any mental judgement about what you're wearing while doing the "walk of shame" that morning, 75% of them will envy you for getting laid the night before, because they didn't.

I really can't see any justification for the "walk of shame" to have such a title that portrays it in a negative light. In my opinion, it needs to be renamed to the "walk of happiness", because good sex the night before can make you feel good about yourself the following day.

Take this for what it's worth, and try to use this perspective next time you find yourself in such a situation.